Lately I have been thinking... about blessings.
Most people I know, (including myself) tend to dwell, and sometimes obsess over the things, experiences or people we do not have. We will call them disappointments. Instead of being grateful and excited for the things, experiences and people we are blessed with!!!!
All the pressures of life...'being a good parent' and 'raising kids right'.
Along with being accepted by friends and getting approval from family.
Pleasing customers and bosses all the while.
That is a lot if you let it get to you.
I am a firm believer that EVERYTHING happens for reason!
A perfect example from my own life (it took me a LONG time to step back and see the blessing)...
My Mother (best friend and rescuer from all) passed away. I thought my life was over. I was being paid back for all the terrible things and lies I told when I was younger. I also blamed, hated, and became jealous of many people around me. (including myself)
Like I said before it took me a long time to find the blessing and the reason that she was taken from me.
I have grown (physically yes, but not what I meant), I am stronger, less lazy and more motivated then I have ever been.
Blessings come in large forms, all the way down to something tiny.
So what can we do to try harder to appreciate the blessings instead of holding on to the disappointments?
My opinion is, forgive. Forgive others, forgive yourself.
I'm not sure if I like the use of the word Destiny, but I will use it.
Doesn't all the thing that happen whether they are heart wrenching, or just a little upsetting, whether they are AMAZING or just put a smile on your face, apart of our Destiny? Would you be the person you are without the ups and downs?? Would you know the things and people that you know??
Life to me is like a puzzle. Every piece matters and you cannot change the pieces.
Forgive. Forgive yourself for not making the time to coach your child at sports. Forgive yourself for yelling at your spouse. Forgive yourself for lying.
But also forgive others. Forgive your brother for bragging about his new purchase. Forgive the person that hurt your child. Forgive the people that weren't there for you.
It has all past and now you have to try to find the reason/blessing hidden. Because holding on to all the disappointments and anger doesn't fix or change ANYTHING! But finding the hidden blessing could help you and/or others grow.
Trying to count my blessings more often is a goal of mine...
I have 8 kids that are healthy happy, and all love me! (for right now, the teens are approaching us)
I have a husband that looks at me with a sparkle in his eye after all the years and all the trials we have been through.
I believe in my heart I have THE MOST AMAZING FRIENDS I could ever ask for or dream up!
A blessing that is little but I am grateful for, I have learned the art (and pleasure) of a clean house.
I have many more... but I am more interested in your blessings...
Can you share a few of your blessings? (may help me see more in my own life)